Men aren't the problem, so stop saying that every man is trash.

 Men aren't the problem, so stop saying that every man is trash.

The hate, blame, and pessimism that women have toward men has gotten out of hand.

"Men are trash, so I'd rather stay single."

"I don't have a boyfriend because men are dumb."

It's really sad and embarrassing.

Women need to understand that the problem is not men.

You know what's wrong, right?

If you've been single for a while and don't know why, look at yourself in the mirror. You'll find the answer there.

You need to stop generalizing too much about men and women and instead work on improving yourself. You need to work on getting better as a person. You need to take responsibility for your mistakes and stop putting the blame on other people.

Look, there's nothing wrong with not having a partner, especially if you choose to be single. But if it's not your choice, you need to stop, think, and figure out what's going on. Maybe YOU are the problem.

I'm not just talking to single women; I'm also talking to men who always blame the other sex for how bad their dating lives are.

Here's what's really going on:

It's YOU, not them.

You're single because: You're not good at making friends.

You're awkward. You don't get social cues.

You can start a conversation, but it usually doesn't go well when you do. Most of the time, you act or speak in a way that turns people off.

But don't worry. This can be fixed.

You just need to learn how to talk to people and do it. Learn how to read things like facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, etc. Even better, you can write down what to say. Learn interesting things to say or share, like stories, jokes, conversation starters, ice-breakers, one-liners, or anything else.

Yes, it does take time to get better. But if you want to date better, you have to work for it instead of complaining and blaming other people.

2. You have unrealistic expectations.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't have standards, because you should. But if your dream guy looks like Henry Cavill, is six feet tall, and makes a six-figure salary every year, then you're not going to find him. That's not only not true, but it's also too simple.

I think you should pay more attention to a person's personality, values, beliefs, and intelligence than to how they look and how much money they have. People lose their looks and lose their money, but their hearts don't change much.

3. You are broken and/or dangerous.

Do you really want me to explain?

No one will want to date you if you're a horrible person with a lot of mental and emotional problems.

Also, if you constantly attack men or women—for example, if you're a hard-core feminist, anti-feminist, or misogynist who spreads negativity and hate online and off—people will naturally avoid you. (At least, those with a brain will.)

Help from a professional is the only way to stop being crazy, so I suggest you do that.

Quit putting the blame on others and work on yourself.

Whether you're a man or a woman, you shouldn't date anyone until you've worked things out with yourself. Improve yourself and become a better person by working on yourself. Quit blaming other people.