Even though I'm married again, I still think about my first husband.
People are rarely happy with what they have, so they always want more. This is true in love and marriage as well. Even if their husband is kind and caring, many women feel that he is not good enough because he is only good to them and has no advantages. Compared to other successful people, it is really a lot worse, so they will always dislike it. Due to her husband's lack of skill, she thought he was useless.
Once she starts to think this way, she will feel more and more unfair inside, and she will naturally start to complain more to her husband, who won't understand. After a long time, no one would be willing to put up with this kind of behavior, and the fight with her husband will get worse and worse until it can't be fixed.
But a lot of the time, they just watch and are obsessed with the authorities, so they don't realize how happy they are with their lives now. They will be sorry when they lose it.
I'm going to tell you a story about Mary today so you can find out what she's been through.
Mary and Thor go to the same college. Because the two people are the same in every way, they feel very good to each other after getting to know each other for a while. This turns into a relationship of lovers.
During college, the two people have always had a good relationship, and they can also help each other grow and get better. They make a great couple among their college friends. After they graduated, they didn't wait long to get married.
1. She stopped liking her husband.
When Mary got married, she put all of her attention on her new family. She quit her job and became a housewife.
At first, Mary thought that Thor was also good. Soon after he joined the company, he was given a promotion, and the future looked good, so she was very kind to her husband. When you are sad, make your husband feel better.
Three years later, Mary slowly started to feel that Thor wasn't quite what she wanted. Most of the new employees had already been promoted to management, but Thor was still an ordinary worker and his salary hadn't gone up much. So, Mary grew more and more unhappy with Thor and thought he wasn't smart enough, flexible enough, or motivated enough, which led to the current situation.
Thor always got home late because he had to work overtime. When Mary saw him, she got mad and said, "I don't know what you do all day. I haven't seen you get a raise or a promotion. I don't understand how the husbands of other women can move up so quickly. And you've been working for three years, but you've only been promoted once, at the beginning. Do you really work hard or just act like you do?"
At this point, Thor said, "I can't do anything about it either. Maybe I'm not that great after all. I've worked hard, but it still doesn't work." At this time, when Mary said that wasn't good, he was also very upset.
But Mary didn't care if Thor was happy or not, and she continued to hate him: "I really don't know how I fell in love with you in the first place. You are so stupid, marry me, and one day I'll die of hunger."
Thor was quiet, but he was still sure of what he thought. He thought he couldn't guess, and since he had never been promoted, he must have done better than others.
Mary's anger grew as she looked at Thor's blank face. She told him, "I really don't want to talk to you anymore, and I don't want to see you." After she finished talking, she went back to her room and put the Even the door to the bedroom was locked. Thor was forced to sleep on the couch.
2. Meet rich older men
Mary felt helpless and angry about her husband's lack of skill, so she stopped paying any attention to him and started spending every day with her best friend.
Since Mary got married, she and her best friend haven't played together in a long time. Mary found out that people who weren't as smart or pretty as her had lived better than her in the past. This made her complain about her husband even more.
Back at home, the more Mary thought about it, the more angry she got, so she got mad at her husband for a while. After making fun of how stupid he is, she went to find her best friend.
One day, Mary and her best friend went to a bar to talk about Mary's life. They said that Mary didn't like anything about her life, and that her husband was useless and had no hope, so her future looked really bad. Mary couldn't stop drinking when she thought about this, and she got drunk.
Drunk Mary is also more charming. A lot of men came up to her to talk, and a 60-year-old man was the one who made her the most happy. Mary had thought about such an old, ugly person, and she didn't want to pay him any attention. He's so old, and it's really silly of him to try to woo a woman younger than 30.
But Mary's best friend told her, "Don't look at that old, ugly man. From what I can tell, he must be very rich." Look at his clothes. Which one doesn't come from a well-known brand? And he still says Well, he didn't say it, but if he hadn't, would you have guessed he was 60?
When Mary turned her head to look at the man, it was exactly as her best friend had said, so she no longer hated him in her heart. On the contrary, the more she looked, the happier she got. This is how she and he kept in touch: they gave each other their phone numbers.
3. Divorce and getting remarried
Since then, the older man has always been nice to Mary and chased after her with all his might, sending her very expensive jewelry, clothes, bags, and other things. Mary really likes this kind of thing because she is vain. She called the man Uncle in jest.
Thor got into a big fight with Mary before he found out about this. Mary also thought that she couldn't keep living with Thor, so she filed for divorce, turned around, and threw herself into the arms of a 60-year-old man.
Mary chose to marry her uncle, who was 60 years old, even though her family and friends told her not to. After the wedding, Mary realized that she had thought too simply.
Because Mary's uncle wasn't very nice to her. He often told her she wasn't careful enough and treated her like a nanny, asking her to do all sorts of housework. The life of a rich wife that Mary had imagined didn't show up at all. Instead, it was like having a free babysitter.
The worst part is that the uncle has a lot of lovers outside. He doesn't go home every night. Mary stays alone in the empty room all the time. And her uncle didn't give her much money for living costs. He gave her just enough to get by, which wasn't even half of what her ex-husband Thor spent on living costs.
So, after six months, Mary would always think about her honest ex-husband Thor at night. She regretted her decision, but there was nothing she could do about it. One day, Mary's best friend came to her house to see how she was doing. He asked, "How is the life of the rich wife?" She told him, "It's not very good, and I regret it."
Mary went on before her best friend asked: "I decided to get a divorce and marry my uncle, who is 60 years old, but now I think about my honest ex-husband every night." "It wasn't until then that I realized that the so-called bright and beautiful life was just this."
Mary always thought her ex-husband was worthless, even though he was honest. She never gave him any thought from Thor's point of view. Instead, she had an affair with her uncle, who was 60 years old, and then decided to leave Thor. She dreamed of being the happy wife of a rich man, but she didn't know that life wasn't as good as it used to be.
This is how many people always act. When they get something, they always feel like it's easy to get, and they don't care about it at all, so they use it up without thinking. But all of a sudden, they forgot how important these things were to them, and they would later feel bad about it.
So, women need to know that love and marriage aren't child's play. Don't just take the other person's enthusiasm and feelings for you at face value; you need to learn to empathize. You can't just enjoy yourself and let the people who have been sincere to us be disappointed, so you leave us. Every time we do something, we should give it careful thought so we don't end up regretting it.
Do you feel sorry for Mary?
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