Too many people in our society don't understand how important marriage is. Young people often do things on the spur of the moment, make hasty decisions, and see marriage as a game. They don't understand how important marriage is. This is also why there are so many divorces.
From the point of view of love and loneliness, I can look at how some people feel about marriage and how important it is, and then I can make some suggestions.
1. Love and Getting Married
You can't just decide not to get married because you haven't found love.
Everyone wants to find love, but love and getting married are not the same thing. Some girls think that marriage and love go hand in hand, and that the system of marriage that allows two people to be together forever is the happy ending of love, so they don't get married without love. There are problems with this idea that are easy to see.
If you don't get married because you love each other, you're missing the point of life and marriage. Love is a luxury, but it's hard to find. Even the wealthy might not have it. People who believe in love are sure that they will find this rare thing. They won't give in to reality, and they think the most important thing in a relationship is that both people like each other.
But for marriage, a partner on the journey of life is what it's all about. Since two people have to live together for decades, it's most important that they are compatible. How much you like it is much less important than how well you fit together.
Also, love will fade over time in future marriages, so why insist that there must be love before marriage? We have to realize that love is like a dream, which is the opposite of reality. We live in reality, not dreams, so there's nothing wrong with being realistic.
If you insist that love is a requirement for marriage, girls will miss the best time to get married because they will be too busy waiting for love.
When women get married, they get to keep their youth. Age can be a burden if you don't know how to handle it. If you want to get married when you are almost thirty-five, it will be hard.
Many boys feel the same way about marriage as many girls do. Usually, boys in their 20s think that getting married is their responsibility to their girlfriends. They feel like they are in charge of the relationship, and they want to explain themselves to each other.
This way of thinking thinks that marriage is the end of the relationship and that I can breathe a sigh of relief. It doesn't take marriage seriously and doesn't see the problems that come with it.
Marriage is a long-term relationship between two people, a ceremony to start a new family, a new way of life, and a new set of responsibilities. In the future, they will face many problems for the first time. Check again how the two of you get along and how well you can work together.
Many boys feel the same way about marriage as many girls do. Usually, boys in their 20s think that getting married is their responsibility to their girlfriends. They feel like they are in charge of the relationship, and they want to explain themselves to each other.
This way of thinking thinks that marriage is the end of the relationship and that I can breathe a sigh of relief. It doesn't take marriage seriously and doesn't see the problems that come with it.
Marriage is a long-term relationship between two people, a ceremony to start a new family, a new way of life, and a new set of responsibilities. In the future, they will face many problems for the first time. Check again how the two of you get along and how well you can work together.
2. Being alone and having a friend
You could be unhappy if you're married, but you have to be unhappy if you're not.
Many young people think it's great to be single because they are young, in good spirits, and have a lot of good friends.
What if it's old age, though? The body isn't working as well as it used to, and the mind isn't as active as the young man's. Friends also have their own families, so there are less opportunities to see each other.
People want a stable, loving, and healing family right now, and different age groups have different needs.
People worry most about being alone when they get old. Even when they go out, get off work, or celebrate the New Year, they are all by themselves.
A life like that will never have any emotional warmth, and the human spirit will be empty.
Who can we count on to help us when things are hard, we're sick, or we need money? look after us?
Friend? Are they always able to help you?
Parents? Parents still need us to help them.
How do you pick a partner?
From the point of view of a partner, you can go further than if you chose a partner based on how much you love them.
Because the choice of partner is based on reality and the core of marriage, which is to work together, the most important thing in a marriage is to be there for each other.
Love takes into account how each person feels, but feelings are unstable and not very useful.
If we choose based on how the other person thinks, we will naturally pay attention to their personality, character, qualities, and other things that are hard to change and last a long time.
If we're still not sure, we can ask ourselves if it's more important for the other person to have a good-looking face when they're going through hard times and arguments. Do you like him more important? Or is being reliable more important? It's important to get along with each other.
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